I am all for body positivity. I am all for loving ourselves and our bodies just as they are, right now, in this moment. In fact, I know that coming from a place of loving ourselves is the only way to make lasting changes, the only way to create new, healthy habits that stick.
So, when I talk about losing weight, it’s not because I think we should all be skinny, it’s because I think we should all be taking care of our health and becoming the healthiest versions of ourselves that we can.
I’m tired of seeing my friends and family suffer. As a life coach, I know I can help you change any area of your life, but I want to help you start with your health.
Here’s what I think:
Let’s make improving our health the first goal, and then we’ll have the energy and vitality to achieve all of our other goals.
We’re not all starting off from the same place, with the same health issues, or with the same health goals, but starting with losing the excess weight is still THE place to start.
We all know that there are two things that will help us lose weight.
#1. Eat less.
#2. Move more.
But, why, when we know what to do, are we not able to lose the weight? If you’re reading this, I’m going to guess you WANT to lose weight, but you’ve been struggling.
2 Reasons You Can’t Lose Weight
#1. Your Thinking
#2. Hormone Imbalance
I would love to tell you that it’s all mindset and that it’s not physical, but the truth is that the mind and body are intimately connected. It’s both mindset and physiology.
The brain/nervous system IS the body and the body IS the brain (the gut has 500 million neurons and acts independently of the brain).
Taking control of our health, losing weight and keeping it off, requires changing our thoughts and balancing our hormones. If we do those two things, the weight drops off, we feel better, we function better in our lives, and it doesn’t hurt being able to fit into our skinny jeans.
This is something I’m an expert in. I’m not only trained in how to change thinking, I actually do my own thought work daily. This is how I was able to transition out of a career I loved, but had to quit (massage), and into a career that is even MORE fulfilling. It’s not easy to start a new career at 45, but it’s possible and for me, it has been so worth it.
Thought work is how anyone can change any area of their life. It sounds woo-woo, I know, but countless studies show it’s actually science. Harvard Medical School is now teaching an advanced course in mind-body medicine to doctors.
I teach and coach based on a system and process called, “The Model.” created by a coach I adore, Brooke Castillo. (Brooke, you’re awesome. Thanks so much for this powerful tool!) Here’s the foundation.
Circumstances–>Thoughts –> Feelings–>Actions–>Results
This works like a loop, a feedback loop. It can be a negative cycle that creates results we don’t want, like gaining weight or not losing weight, or it can be a positive cycle of getting healthier, feeling happier, and seeing that number go down on the scale as our energy goes up. We can interrupt the cycle by observing and then changing the thought.
I teach people HOW our thoughts direct our actions and create the results of our lives. I teach how exactly we can change our thoughts. It’s deliberate, it’s a choice we make, and it works 100% of the time. When we look at what’s really going on in our minds, we can then come up with a new, better thought, and what follows is action that leads directly to better *results.
*Results like my client who will have tripled her income by the end of this month. Another client of mine has seen a dramatic rise in her self-confidence, her happiness, and her children’s happiness after just 3 sessions with me. She is finally able to make the changes she has been wishing for for many years.
The second part of losing weight is hormone balance. Most of us, especially women in mid-life, are struggling through our days with the symptoms of hormone imbalance, feeling like we’re stuck in a natural cycle of feeling like poop. But really, feeling pretty darn good is the natural cycle.
We don’t have to suffer the symptoms of hormone imbalance such as night sweats, hot flashes, moodiness, irritability, and the exhaustion. We don’t have to suffer with hormonal skin problems like greasy or dry skin, acne, and eczema. We can stop the hair loss, the brain fog, the PMS. We can STOP the cycle of gaining weight and reverse it so that we can live our lives at our healthiest, happiest weight.
Here’s how I help my clients with hormone imbalance, which is most of us, thanks to stress, diet, and normal everyday life stuff that throws us out of balance. I use two main tools.
First, is an in depth quiz created by a renowned doctor and hormone expert. Second, is is at home hormone testing. Did you know you don’t have to go to the doctor to get lab tests done these days? It’s true.
Once you know what’s going on with your hormones, you can learn what to adjust in order to rebalance them. Depending on your unique hormone imbalance, modifications such as specific dietary changes, certain types of exercise – often something gentle and not too intense -and deep relaxation practices will allow your body to harmonize.
When our hormones are in harmony, the excess weight is easier to lose, our mood stabilizes, we have increased energy, and we think clearly. We lose the cravings for sugar and salty snacks. We have an easier time making choices that keep the positive cycle of our healthy lifestyle on track.
This my friends is what is natural and what is possible.